“Setting an intention for BE-ing comes with the same intended resolve and accountability as our New Year’s resolutions – with a deeper understanding of our Why’s and the benefit to others, and an empowering clarity.” -Kathryn
I send you my wishes for 2021 to be your year of joy and celebration of the extraordinary ripples of impact you create! Don’t let resolutions get in your way!
Earlier this week as I coached the Mindful Leadership group, it was interesting to see how many negative aspects surround the New Year’s tradition of making “resolutions.”
In general, the feeling was that not only do they often not achieve the results desired, but they also can do harm. If the desire or need to do or be “better” comes from a belief that how we are now is not good enough, not valuable or successful enough at our very core, then the quest to be “better” may never be attainable, or rather, when attained can feel empty (Like Joe Gardner realizes in SOUL**, or when you land your dream job only to wonder 6 months later why you’re still not happy.).
Instead, there are some wonderful New Year’s practices I teach to shift from making Resolutions, to revealing one’s purpose to inform (and motivate) next steps. Here are three from past Blogs you may want to play with to help you Set an Intention for BE-ing in 2021:
Webster’s definition of intention [along with my notes]:
As I was writing this, I took a break to listen to Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti give an update on the Stay at Home orders. He was inspired by the word resolution – not in identifying how to do better or accomplish more, but by finding hope in its Latin root resolutio meaning “loosen, release” or as he said (paraphrasing): “to be set free. Free from this pain, from this fear, from this loss that so many of us have felt this year, free for our children to play and learn, free to return to our workplaces, free to see our loved ones and hold them without worry of getting them sick, a year free from the shadow of disease.” He goes on, “My only resolution is to summon the strength and to find the love that surrounds us and is within us, and to share that with one another. And to know that fortitude and generosity is what has and will see us through the toughest of days.”
To me, he is inviting us to Set an Intention for BE-ing, and valuing the impact that this alone can have on others.
When we shift from making resolutions and measuring our success and value in “traditional” ways, to choosing how we want to BE, we create the possibility for the lives of meaning, impact, joy, ease and abundance we truly desire – and are meant to have. And, guess what? Everything you need is already within you, and you always have 100% ability to choose how you show up “even if…”, “even when…”
“We only have a short time on this planet. You want to become the person that you were born to be. Don’t waste your time on all the junk of life. Spend your precious hours doing what will bring out the real you. The brilliant passionate you, that’s ready to contribute to something meaningful into this world.”
**Have you watched SOUL yet? I loved it’s message. Join me this Sunday to share your thoughts on the movie, and discuss Purpose, how to find yours, and why knowing it helps us Set our Intentions for BE-ing, and make big and small decisions on what to do, when and how!
To your success, to your health, and to a year of your dreams!
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P.S. – This time of year can be challenging if you’re at a Crossroad Moment, trying to figure out what to do, what is possible, what you (really) want, and what you should do next. If this is YOU or someone you know, I’ve opened up a few more times on my calender to get on the phone for a confidential call.